Distorted Psychology

Distorted Psychology is: Buzzwords dressed as wisdom, with depth sacrificed in echos of fading context. Truths that are misused, and oversimplified into labels that are weaponized for convenience, eroding understanding in places it should be gained.

Raising awareness is great and all… but…

💔 Not Everyone You Dislike Is a Narcissist

It’s easy to label someone with that title… but true narcissistic personality disorder is a serious and RARE condition that requires a professional diagnosis. Most people you dislike are likely just assholes—hard to deal with, yes, but not necessarily true narcissists. I understand many people check a lot of the boxes required to gain access into this category. But there is still a huge difference between having some narcissistic personality TRAITS, and being an true narcissist.

💔 A Disagreement Is Not Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a calculated form of psychological manipulation designed to make someone doubt their reality. Simply disagreeing with someone, having a different perspective of a situation isn’t gaslighting. It’s simply a difference of opinion while recalling the same situation. Let’s not confuse the two. (I didn’t just gaslight you into doubting reality, I stated MY opinion from MY perspective of the situation. See how it works? 😉)

💔 Not Every Unpleasant Experience Is Trauma

Trauma is a DEEPLY distressing or disturbing event that leaves lasting psychological impacts. Those who suffer the lasting effects of trauma are absolute warriors.

Yes, difficult experiences can indeed hurt, and have lasting effects on you, but they don’t all fall into the category of trauma. Misusing this term diminishes its significance for those who have genuinely suffered through trauma.

💔 Taking Offense Is Not Being Triggered

Feeling offended is natural. Being triggered, however, is a psychological response rooted in trauma. (Circle back up if you need to) The two are not interchangeable. Misusing the term "triggered" minimizes the reality of those who experience genuine trauma-related reactions. Taking offence and reacting from that offence reveals a different root cause in need of healing. Why do you feel offended? What is under that feeling? Either which way triggered or offended, your reactions are signals you need to uproot and heal something. It’s all too common people fall back on “being triggered” to mean avoid the trigger, when in reality it’s something to work towards healing!

Phrases like "gaslighting," "narcissist," and "trauma" are tossed around social media like confetti~ often without context or understanding.

So, while awareness is absolutely essential it needs to come with true understanding, and that requires education and empathy. Resist the urge to reduce psychology to mere buzzwords that get sprinkled onto every situation and instead commit to learning the depth of these concepts.

❤️ In doing so, you honour the experiences of those who live healing the wounds of real trauma, narcissistic abuse, or mental health struggles.

Holistic Definition of Psychology-

Psychology is the study of the mind, emotions, and behaviors, offering insight into how and why we think, feel, and act certain ways. Holistic mental health, believes true psychology goes beyond textbook definitions and clinical diagnoses~ it’s about understanding the whole person. This includes not only the mental and emotional aspects of well-being but also how our environment, relationships, beliefs, and daily practices have an influence on us.

True psychology acknowledges the complexities of human experience, offering space for growth, healing, and transformation. It’s not about labeling or oversimplifying; it’s about cultivating awareness and fostering a deeper connection with ourselves and others.

Herbal Haven Wellness integrates nature’s wisdom with psychological principles, encouraging balance and harmony between the mind, body, and spirit.